Decisions

Recently, I have been trying to choose paint colour for the chimney breast in my lounge room. Some of you will identify with my ongoing indecision and even the quandary of when to stop buying matchpots. The colour chart has eventually fallen apart at the crease. The young people in the house are only helpful with the definitive no, as the other response is, “If it was up to me I’d paint it black, Mum.” That’s my definitive no!

In the scheme of things this is a rather frivolous choice to be making. Lucky me. But the process is the same as some of the forks in the road of our life. Not all choices are binary, not all right or wrong just different possibilities. We are fond of saying that there’s too much choice. But is there? When we really get down to the task of deciding we can cross most things off the list. We know in our heart what feels wrong, our definitive no.

Often, with difficult decisions, the biggest stumbling block is the courage to follow through with the choice we want to make. Most of us chat through indecisions with our friends but have you ever deliberately avoided doing that? Sometimes you just know the right answer is in there somewhere but it can feel like people are giving too much advice instead of just listening. All you might want to do is to explore what each choice feels like, so you can use your own intuition to tease out the answer. All those things us Complementary Therapists talk about, like slowing down, breathing deeply, grounding your thoughts and being mindfully aware of your body, opens access to your intuition. When you have stepped away from the mountain of choice and advice, figuratively and actually, you can return with more confidence in your choices because they will be made with the heart.