Parts of Me

Part of me is fine. Part of me is under pressure to complete my to-do list. Part of me is super excited. Part of me is feeling lazy. I can be all of these things at once and be perfectly normal. And so can you. The same is true for those self-imposed labels limiting the description of your gifts or, worse, only your biggest frailty which doesn’t do justice to your whole self. Our strengths and frailties change with mood and circumstance. We are complex multidimensional beings and we are in constant flux. Thank goodness! Because that also means many potentialities exist. We don’t have to be stuck.

I recognise that my day, my week, my year ebbs and flows between states. Nothing stays quite the same because the world of which I am part is continually changing and will influence me. More complex is the awareness of the parts of me that seem to contradict. If my introverted self is being quiet just wait til my 10% extrovert elbows its way to the front!  But if I can accept that parts are not perfect then I can accept the truth of those parts in you. One can be a kind person and still be selfish. They may well love you to the moon and back but that doesn’t mean they won’t tell you a fib. This reminds me of the Cherokee legend of the two wolves inside us continually fighting, one bad one good. The one that wins is the one you feed. Google it, it’s a beautiful conversation between a man and his grandson. My favourite Lesson 13 of Guan Yin puts it another way: when you want to fight, be love.

When a client comes to me for a treatment, part of them will be looking forward to it but part of them may well be feeling guilty about spending time or money on themselves. Part of my job is to help make that guilt smaller and an important part of theirs is to allow healing to take place. Tending to your own mental or physical health pays dividends larger than the rate of inflation! Your family, friends, your workmates, even your future self, reap the benefits.